Together

A young lady sat in a bus. At the next stop a loud and grumpy old lady came and sat by her. She squeezed into the seat and bumped her with her numerous bags.

The person sitting on the other side of the young lady got upset, asked her why she did not speak up and say something.

The young lady responded with a smile:

"It is not necessary to be rude or argue over something so insignificant, the journey together is so short. I get off at the next stop."

This response deserves to be written in golden letters:

"It is not necessary to argue over something so insignificant, our journey together is so short"

If each one of us realized that our time here is so short; that to darken it with quarrels, futile arguments, not forgiving others, discontentment and a fault finding attitude would be a waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart?
Be calm, the journey is so short.

Did someone betray, bully, cheat or humiliate you?
Be calm, forgive, the journey is so short.

Whatever troubles anyone brings us, let us remember that our journey TOGETHER is so short.

No one knows the duration of this journey. No one knows when their stop will come. Our journey TOGETHER is so short.

Let us cherish friends and family. Let us be respectful, kind and forgiving to each other. Let us be filled with gratitude and gladness.

If I have ever hurt you, I ask for your forgiveness. If you have ever hurt me, you already have my forgiveness.

After all, our journey TOGETHER  is so short....

What caused it.?

Consider a situation: You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears.
      After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
     A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. 
       She misses the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work.You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
        Because you are late, you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 kmph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and throwing Rs.500 (traffic fine) away, you arrived at school.
    
     Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
      Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why?
     Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
      Here is what could have and should have happened.

      Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time".   
       Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.
     You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having.
   Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?
        Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.
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10% of your time dedicated to Meditation helps you keep calm and going for the rest of 90% time.
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Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
      You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
      A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it fall off?
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?
Why let the blue car ruin your drive.

Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying" energy and time into finding another job.
     The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
    She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Yogurt

Mr Gupta’s wife died when he was almost 45 yrs old. People urged him to remarry but he refused saying, "I have a gift from my wife in the form of my son. I will pass my life nicely with him."

When the son became able, Mr Gupta handed over the running of his business to him. He, himself would spend his time between the office and temple.

When his son got married, Mr Gupta became even more contented and handed over the running of the household to his daughter-in-law.

Nearly a year after the son’s marriage, Mr Gupta was having lunch; his son had also come from the office and was washing up in the restroom.

He heard his father ask for yogurt from his wife and she replied that there was no yogurt in the house that day. Mr Gupta finished his lunch and left for the office.

The son started lunch with his wife. There was a bowl full of yogurt on the dining table. He didn’t express any reaction, had lunch and left for the office too.

Nearly ten days later the son told Mr Gupta, "Papa, you have to come to court with me; you are getting married today.”

Mr Gupta was surprised and said, “Beta, I don’t need a wife and I have given you so much love that I don’t think even you need a mother. Then why this second marriage?”

The son replied, “Father, neither am I bringing a mother for myself nor a wife for you. I am only making the arrangement of getting yogurt for you. From tomorrow, I am going to live in a rental home with my wife and also receive salary from the office like a regular employee so that your daughter-in-law realizes the value of yogurt.

Don't get discouraged

One day, a school teacher wrote on the board the following:
9×1=7
9×2=18
9×3=27
9×4=36
9×5=45
9×6=54
9×7=63
9×8=72
9×9=81
9×10=90
When she was done, she looked back at the students and they were all laughing at her because of the first equation which was wrong. Then the teacher said the following:
I wrote that first one wrong on purpose, because I wanted you to learn something important. This was for you to know how the world out there will treat you. You can see that I wrote the RIGHT thing nine times, but none of you congratulated me for it. But you all laughed and criticized me because of one wrong thing I did.
The lesson is:
The world will never appreciate the good you do a million times, but will criticize the one wrong thing you do. So don't get discouraged.

ALWAYS RISE ABOVE ALL THE LAUGHTER AND CRITICISM.

Unchain

A farmer was taking three of his donkeys for sale to the market. On the way he saw a river and decided to have a dip. Since he had only two ropes to tie the donkeys to a tree, he looked around wondering how to tie the third one._

_He saw a sage and sought his help if he could give him a rope to tie the third donkey. The sage did not have a rope but had a suggestion. He told the farmer, “let the third donkey see you tying the other two donkeys to a tree. Then you pretend to tie this one also”. The farmer did as he was told and went for a dip in the river._

_Coming back, he thanked the sage and saw that the donkeys stood exactly at the same spot where he had left them. He untied the two donkeys and patted the third one to start moving. After going a little distance, imagine his surprise when the third donkey stood still at the same spot. Cajoling, kicking or talking did not help with the donkey, refusing to move from the spot._

_The farmer went back to sage, who told him, “untie the third donkey”._

_"But”, protested the farmer, “I have not tied him”._

_The sage asked, “You know it. But does the donkey know that?”_

_Sure enough the farmer went back went through the motions of untying the donkey. The donkey moved immediately as though released and walked over to join the other two donkeys._

*We too are tied up by too many imaginary ropes which are really non-existent. The only truth is there are no boundaries in real life and anyone can stretch to any extent.*

Life -  All About Untying Mental Blocks.

Human nature

A woman gets cheated by her husband.

Devastated, she doesn't know how to continue to live her life. She heard that there's a very wise monk who lives up in a mountain, and decided to go there to consult him.

After few days of traveling, walking, climbing, she reaches the top and meets the wise monk. "I have spent my whole life with him, my youth was dedicated to support him, take care of him. And now he left me with a young woman. My life is stolen, and I'm left with nothing. I don't know what to do".

The monk gives her a cookie and asks her to eat it. After she finishes eating, he ask: "Is the cookie delicious?" "Yes"- she answer. "Do you want another one?" "Sure, please". The monk looks her in the eyes and said "Do you see the problem now?"

The woman thinks for a while, and then slowly speak. "I guess human nature is greedy. You got one, then you want more, maybe a new one, bigger one. It's never enough. And nothing lasts forever, anything is impermanence. We should be aware and not disappointed for that".

The monk shakes his head "No, I mean you are too fat, you should eat less."

Warming hearts. ...

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In Crown Heights, there was a Jewish man named Yankel, who owned a bakery. He survived the concentration camps, and always said, "You know why it is that I’m alive today?"

"I was a kid, just a teenager at the time. We were on the train being taken to Auschwitz. Night came and it was deathly cold in that boxcar. The Germans would leave the cars on the side of the tracks overnight, sometimes for days on end without any food, and no blankets to keep us warm," he said.

"Sitting next to me was this beloved elderly Jewish man from my hometown. He was shivering from head to toe, and looked terrible. So I wrapped my arms around him to warm him up. I rubbed his arms, his legs, his face, his neck. I begged him to hang on. All night long, I kept the man warm this way.

"I was tired, and freezing cold myself. My fingers were numb, but I didn’t stop rubbing heat into that old man’s body. Hours and hours went by until finally, morning came and the sun began to shine. When there was some light in the boxcar, I looked around to see the other people. To my horror, all I could see were frozen bodies. All I could hear was deathly silence.

"Nobody else in that cabin made it through the night. They died from the cold. Only two people survived: the old man and me. The old man survived because somebody kept him warm...and I survived because I was warming someone else.

"Can I tell you the secret to survival in this world? When you warm other people’s hearts, you remain warm yourself. When you seek to support, encourage and inspire others, then you discover support, encouragement and inspiration in your own life as well. That, my friends, is the secret to life."